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Mar 2025
1h 10m

Make Better Decisions Faster | 047

Tess Masters
About this episode

Do you struggle making the big calls in life? Decision coach Nell Wulfhart gives us practical methods for weighing up our options and making choices that get us what we want and align with our values.  

Raised by a father who believed he could do anything and did, and a very successful mother with a more conservative approach, Nell learned early to make decisions with a balance of confidence and caution. Later, deciding she’d rather regret what she did than what she didn’t, she went to college overseas and then lived in countries all over the world. That led to her work as a travel writer, New York Times columnist, and nonfiction author.  

Helping people break out of analysis paralysis and make necessary life-changing decisions, she found her vocation. She coaches politicians, athletes, corporate executives, filmmakers, and everyday people. 

Nell gives us the steps to break through the dread of regret, imposter syndrome, and the endless loop of “What ifs” and “I don’t knows” to take action towards our goals.  

She walks us through the most effective way to assess the risk and reward of any decision, and shares how to implement her Post It, Deadline Halving, and Test The Waters strategies.   

Busting the misconception that more time spent making decisions means better decisions, Nell says: Make the call, then collect the data, and get to the good bit sooner!    

Nell’s advice will help you make decisions with clarity, stop spinning your wheels, and start living your It Has To Be Me!  

 

TESS’S TAKEAWAYS: 

  • Spend less time making a decision and more time taking action on it. 
  • Weigh the cost of the decision vs the cost of not making the decision.  
  • To combat fear and doom, step back, zoom out, and assess the facts.  
  • Risk assessment overlooks the best-case scenario. 
  • Test the waters to get data about whether you like something.  
  • A shift from “what if” to “even if” inspires bold choices and resilience.  
  • When making a decision, give yourself a deadline, then halve it.  
  • Making decisions not in line with your values is a shortcut to unhappiness. 

 

ABOUT NELL WULFHART 

Host of The Decision Coach podcast, Nell Wulfhart has counselled politicians, athletes, fund managers, corporate executives, filmmakers, and people in diverse fields to make life-changing decisions.    

In a single session and with a coaching style that New York Magazine describes as "an unvarnished warmth that lands somewhere between cool aunt and favorite camp counselor,”  she helps the client make a decision and take action on it.  

A former New York Times columnist and author of The Great Stewardess Rebellion, Nell is a seasoned travel writer and contributes to Conde Nast Traveller, Travel & Leisure, Bon Appetit, and others.  

 

CONNECT WITH NELL 

Website: https://decisioncoach.com/ 

Website: https://nellmcshanewulfhart.com/ 

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-decision-coach-how-to-make-big-choices/id1726265445  

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