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Mar 2025
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Mel Robbins: I Was the Toxic One in My R...

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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on: October 19, 2022. What up, guys? It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we dive deep and come out stronger. Today, I'm so freaking excited because I'm sitting down with someone who needs no introduction but deserves all the freaking respect – Mel Robbins! This episode is beyond special as she shares deeply personal insights about relationships, self-reflection, and owning our toxic behaviors. Trust me, you don't want to miss out on this real talk.


Mel Robbins, the fiery motivational speaker, best-selling author, and star of the Mel Robbins podcast, opens up like never before, giving us all the raw advice we need on spotting toxic relationships and identifying our own role in them. Plus, we get the scoop on how her marriage hit rocky waters and was pulled back with some hard-hitting truth bombs. Honestly, it's an episode full of those nuggets we really need to hear to know when we're in a toxic relationship and, more importantly, if we're the toxic one. Get ready to self-reflect, be empowered, and take freaking control of your relationships, homie.


SHOWNOTES

  • 00:00: Introduction to Mel Robbins and today's impactful topic
  • 00:31: Relationship struggles and candid confessions
  • 01:14: Spotting toxic behaviors and taking responsibility
  • 02:28: Disrespect and crossing lines in partnerships
  • 03:28: Real-life example of relationship dynamics
  • 04:34: Are you being the disrespectful one?
  • 08:14: Cardboard box and communication issues
  • 14:19: Signs of toxic relationships and owning your part
  • 30:03: Breadwinner resentment and financial dynamics
  • 44:41: Importance of communication and therapy
  • 48:59: Personal growth and relationship challenges
  • 56:23: How to handle changes in a relationship
  • 01:08:56: Are partners willing to meet halfway?


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