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Mar 2025
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247: Navigating the Drama Triangle at Wo...

Aoife O'Brien
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What is the drama triangle and how can you get out of it at work?

In this solo episode of the Happier at Work podcast, I dive deep into the psychological concept of the drama triangle, developed in the 1960s. Often unrecognisable at first glance, these unconscious patterns involve the roles of the victim, the persecutor, and the rescuer. I discuss how these dynamics can impact workplace culture, relationships, and overall career progression, and provide insights into recognising these roles and transforming them into more positive interactions.

I share some of my own personal experiences and provide  practical strategies for shifting out of these roles. By moving from victim to creator, transforming persecutors into challengers, and reframing the rescuer's impulse into supportive guidance, you can become equipped with the tools to break free from these limiting patterns. This episode is a must-listen if you’re aiming to create a healthier, more constructive workplace environment.

The Main Points:

  • Understanding the roles within the drama triangle: victim, persecutor, and rescuer.
  • Recognising patterns of behaviour affecting workplace culture and personal growth.
  • Transitioning from victim mode to creator mode for personal empowerment.
  • Shifting from being a persecutor to becoming a challenger to support others better.
  • Reframing the rescuer role to offer supportive guidance rather than taking over.
  • Learning the impact of micromanagement and gossip in perpetuating the drama triangle.
  • Practical tips for improving communication and responsibility within team dynamics.

 

Do you have any feedback or thoughts on this discussion? If so, please connect with Aoife via the links below and let her know. Aoife would love to hear from you!


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