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Mar 2025
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No, There Isn’t a Loneliness Epidemic (A...

THE ART OF MANLINESS
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Face-to-face socializing in America has declined by more than 20% nationwide. Among some groups, like young adults and unmarried men, the drop is closer to 40%.But strangely, this hasn’t led to the loneliness epidemic that you hear so much about. Instead, we’re seeing a new phenomenon: rising aloneness without rising loneliness.Today on the show, Derek Thomp ... Show More
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