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Mar 2025
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Master Class: Beyond Dating Burnout

Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media
About this episode

In this jam-packed Master Class you’ll learn why apathy may be the reason you’re feeling burned out in dating and how empathy is the antidote. Damona shares why empathy makes you more attractive, how to cultivate it, and exercises to strengthen both self-empathy and relational empathy. Plus, our Dear Damona questions for the week include:

  • Why are so many people less emotionally available than they say?
  • How can we utilize roster dating for less burnout and better turnout? 
  • I used to find joy in dating. Now it feels like a chore. How can I find joy again? 
  • How can you get a nervous first date to open up and relax?


We are giving away 3 audio book copies of F The Fairy Tale in celebration of 550 episodes of Dates & Mates! To enter, just share this episode on your social media and tag Damona @DamonaHoffman and you will be entered for a chance to get the F The Fairy Tale e-book.  


If you’re tired of dating burnout then it’s time to identify your dating loops and move on in love. For the entire month of March, we are giving you $50 off the Dating Accelerator! Just visit DamonaHoffman.com/Course and enter the code March50


Coming up next in the Dates & Mates lineup, we have an all Dear Damona so send in your questions! Submit them on any of the socials @ DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com

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