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Mar 2025
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Episode 376: The Biggest Change People W...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

If you could change one thing about your sex life, what would it be? In this episode, we’re discussing the biggest changes people want to make and the new things they want to try in bed based on insights from Arya’s new study of Couples and Intimacy Trends, which included data from more than 100,000 respondents.

I am joined once again by Nicholas Velotta, a PhD student at the University of Washington who researches intimate relationships and sex. He is also the head of research at the couple’s wellness platform, Arya. You can find him online at mindonlove.com.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • What do people wish was different about their sex lives?
  • Why does it seem like everyone is having less sex than they used to?
  • What are the most common new things people want to try sexually?
  • Why is kink becoming more popular?
  • How can we leverage technology to improve intimacy and enhance eroticism?

You can check out Nicholas’ website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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