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Feb 2025
22m 14s

Why I’m Done with Self-Improvement

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About this episode

This episode idea started as a joke. 

But the more I talked about it, the more I realized I do actually want to take a break from self-improvement — a journey I’ve been on for nearly 20 years. 

Before you judge me, or dismiss me, hear me out. 

In today’s episode I’ll talk about what happens when we stop trying to become “better” than we already are. 

Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.com

Follow Ally on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyfallon/

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