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Feb 2025
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How Not To Torpedo Your Relationships | ...

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Data-driven, dharma-informed, Dan-tested strategies for improving relationships of all kinds. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • The value of having platonic friends in addition to your spouse or partner
  • A key communication skill that Dan picked up from the writer and researcher Brené Brown
  • How humor can help your relationships – and how it can hurt
  • A cognitive reframe from couples therapist Esther Perel
  • How to manage conflict in a healthy way
  • And one of Dan’s favorite Saturday Night Live sketches: Man Park

 

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