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Feb 2025
58m 46s

ADHD Expert: Meredith Carder On RSD and ...

Alice Draper
About this episode

Meredith Carder is a trailblazing ADHD coach, author, and advocate who knows firsthand the challenges of navigating life with ADHD. From the weight of rejection to the struggle of masking, Meredith has been there—and now she’s helping others rewrite their stories. As the author of It All Makes Sense Now: Embrace Your ADHD Brain to Live a Creative and Colorful Life, she’s a powerful voice for adults learning to thrive with neurodivergence.

In this episode, Meredith takes us inside the ADHD brain, breaking down the emotional toll of Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), the burnout of perfectionism, and the dopamine-fueled trap of people-pleasing. She shares her personal experiences and actionable strategies for managing emotional dysregulation, finding authenticity, and staying motivated for the long haul.

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/hummingbird_adhd⁠

It All Makes Sense Now: Embrace Your ADHD Brain to Live a Creative and Colorful Life
https://www.amazon.com/All-Makes-Sense-Now-Creative/dp/1401977030

Meredith’s Website:
https://www.meredithcarder.com

Meredith’s Substack:
https://meredithcarder.substack.com

00:00 Introduction to Meredith and Her ADHD Journey
06:10 Childhood Rejection and Its Long-Term Impact
12:30 Masking and the Struggle to Fit In
19:05 Understanding Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
26:40 People-Pleasing and Why ADHDers Struggle to Say No
33:15 Perfectionism and the “Lazy Perfectionist” ADHD Myth
40:10 Managing Emotional Dysregulation in Rejection
46:55 Staying Committed to Long-Term Goals as an ADHDer
53:20 Rewiring the Brain Through Sharing Wins

🎧 Listen to the full episode to learn how Meredith Carder helps ADHDers navigate rejection and embrace their unique strengths!

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