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Jan 2025
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269. How to care less about others opini...

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Everyone has an opinion, but are they all worth listening to? When we're not careful we can get carried away by imagining what people may or may not think about everything from our outfits, to our life choices, to our social media presence, to our relationship decisions. When we do, we become less in touch with our authentic, true self. It makes it harder for us to take action on what we want, and easier for us to go with the crowd. In today's episode, we talk about why that is, including: '

  • The evolutionary purpose of considering others opinions of us
  • The psychology of approval seeking behaviour 
  • The influence of our childhood 
  • The consequences of relying on external validation 
  • How to decentre others opinions
  • The 5/5/5 rule + much more

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