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Jan 2025
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When You Get Dumped & Matches on Mute

Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media
About this episode

“What To Do When You Get Dumped” author-illustrator, mother-daughter duo, Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman take on heartbreak in a refreshing way in their new graphic novel. Discover tips on healing from a breakup, moving on, and leaning into love again. Plus, we have this week’s Dear Damona question: 


  • Why do my Hinge matches like my profile but then never write to me?


Grab your copy of Suzy and Hallie’s graphic novel, “What To Do When You Get Dumped” by visiting: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/what-to-do-when-you-get-dumped-9781639731893/


Let’s get real! Dating feels harder than it should be right now leaving many feeling emotionally drained. That’s why Damona is hosting a special open call: Dealing with Dating Burnout TOMORROW Wednesday, January 22nd at 4p.m. PST / 7p.m. EST. Learn quick tools to protect your energy while staying open to connection, how to recognize if your dating patterns are draining you, and simple shifts to make dating feel more aligned with your values. Visit DamonaHoffman.com/DatingBurnout


And if you want more tools, support, and community, spend the entire day with Damona and her team while you heal your heart and renew your faith in romance at our one-day-only F the Fairy Tale Virtual Retreat. This live online event is almost SOLD OUT so grab your ticket before it’s gone at DamonaHoffman.com/Retreat


Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting DamonaHoffman.com


TIMESTAMPS

Introduction to Breakups (00:00:00)  


Divorce Month (00:01:06)  


The Inspiration for the Book (00:03:30)  


The Role of Tarot (00:04:51)  


Navigating Trauma (00:05:53)  


The Healing Process (00:08:25)  


Collaborative Writing Process (00:10:16)  


Depth of the Story (00:12:38)  


Advice and Wisdom (00:15:53)  


Encouragement in Writing (00:16:37)  


Daily Meditations (00:17:52)  


Writing Through Pain (00:18:50)  


Forgiveness vs. Moving Forward (00:20:27)  


Finding Peace (00:22:50)  


Behold the Badger (00:23:10)  


Reclaiming Spaces (00:28:14)  


Rewriting Memories (00:30:06)  


Making a "What Was True" List (00:32:28)  


The list of issues (00:34:07)  


Personal truths in healing (00:35:47)  


Rewriting the script (00:37:21)  


Counseling for recovery (00:38:50)  


Grief and awakening (00:39:30)  


Rediscovering desire (00:41:17)  


Unpopular opinions on dating apps (00:43:06)  


The value of being single (00:44:26)  


Closing thoughts and book promotion (00:46:40)  


Dating Apps and Burnout (00:50:56)  


Understanding Dating Mechanisms (00:52:20)  


Perception of Dating Experiences (00:53:32)  


Introducing the Fairy Tale Online Retreat (00:56:08)  


Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:57:21) 

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