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Jan 2025
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What Your Wife Needs When You Relapse (w...

Drew Boa
About this episode

What does your wife need when you relapse into porn, unwanted sexual behavior, and  breaking her trust? Tammy Gustafson explains what is going on inside your wife when you relapse, how you can helpful rather than hurtful, and why it's wise for your wife to have a relapse safety plan.

Tammy Gustafson is the founder of the Betrayal Healing Conference. This free conference is for all women who have experienced sexual betrayal, whether you just found out about his acting out, your relationship is healing, or you are divorced and are picking up the pieces. Husband Material is partnering with Betrayal Healing to promote this amazing event! Register here.

Tammy is also a Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR certified clinician, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is passionate about helping women find their strength and pick up the pieces of their broken hearts after sexual betrayal so that they are able to see beauty, joy, and adventure again.

Tammy and Nathaniel Gustafson co-lead a monthly webinar series called Both Sides Of The Story. Highly recommended! Check it out here.


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