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Jan 2025
29m 25s

Boxing Whales

EMMA SUNSHAW
About this episode

We share an update from therapy, about learning how memory time and now time connect through re-enactments… and start looking at Memory Time where the pain is.

Note:  This therapy session happened three days after the last session where we did the four questions that helped me see how Memory Time invades Now Time.  I thought I was going in to my therapy session to talk about the hard conversations in Now Time, and my therapist helped me see roots of where Memory Time invades - which ultimately was a bridge that leads directly to the disorganized attachment pieces we will share starting next week.  Also, the song at the end of this episode was the LGBTQIA+ PRIDE theme last summer, because so many of us feel isolated from family and caregivers simply because of who we are.  It was fun and peppy, hiding the big feelings in the lyrics - like a song in drag.  I slowed it down and added the sad tone to emphasize congruence between music and lyrics.  It is not meant to be literal. 

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