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Jan 2025
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Family Estrangement, Spiritual Harm & th...

SUE MARRIOTT LCSW, CGP & ANN KELLEY PHD
About this episode

Hello 2025! Kicking off the year exploring family estrangement, AI in therapy & much more…

Ann and Sue interview psychotherapist Matthias Barker, unpacking how he uses his platform of 11 million + to deliver mental health care responsibly.  They explore the complexities of parent-child estrangement and the often-overlooked generational gaps that shape how families navigate conflict. Matthias delves in to the deep wounds that spiritual harm can leave, and the conversation expands into broader themes of spirituality & the emerging presence of AI.  This wide-ranging conversation also addresses the ethical challenges of the technology and creating meaningful change, whether in family dynamics or the future of mental health care.

In this compelling episode, hosts Ann and Sue sit down with renowned psychotherapist Matthias Barker, who has built a transformative mental health platform reaching over 11 million people. The conversation weaves through several profound themes: the delicate balance of delivering mental health guidance through social media, the complex terrain of parent-child estrangement in modern families, and the lasting impact of religious trauma.

Barker offers unique insights into how generational differences shape family conflicts and healing processes, drawing from his extensive clinical experience. The discussion evolves into an exploration of spirituality in the digital age, including thought-provoking perspectives on artificial intelligence’s role in shaping human consciousness and connection.

They tackle pressing questions about technological ethics, particularly in mental healthcare delivery, while examining how meaningful change occurs—whether in healing fractured family relationships or adapting therapeutic practices for an increasingly digital world. This nuanced conversation bridges practical psychological insights with broader questions about human connection in an evolving technological landscape.

“We inherit more than genetics from our families—we inherit patterns, beliefs, and ways of relating. Healing means choosing which ones to keep and which ones to let go of.” – Matthias Barker

Time Stamps for Family Estrangement, Spiritual Harm, & the Ethics of AI in Therapy with Matthias Barker (255)

05:54 Generational perspectives on estrangement
12:10 Understanding emotional dynamics in families
18:12 Spiritual harm and its impact
34:55 The intersection of technology and mental health
45:08 Exploring ethical dilemmas of AI in therapy

About our Guest – Matthias Barker 

Matthias is a psychotherapist recognized for his expertise in making complex mental health concepts accessible, with a special focus on parent-child estrangement. He is the CEO of the Trauma Institute which provides clinical training for psychotherapists and education for the general public on healing from trauma. Matthias is widely recognized for his unique approach to making mental health knowledge and skills accessible to the wider public. His ability to translate complex topics into relatable everyday language has empowered millions to heal from their past, repair relationships, and take control of their mental well-being. Through platforms like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook and his top-ranking Spotify podcast, Matthias delivers psychoeducational content to a following of over 4 million people. His innovative blend of engaging content and relevant mental health advice has fostered a vibrant online community centered on healing, personal growth, and moving towards what’s meaningful despite hardship. Aside from his online presence, Matthias is an accomplished author and educator. He has self-published several short books and interactive mental health journals, offering a distinctive trauma-informed approach to topics like grief, motivation, burnout, and gratitude. In addition, he has built a diverse library of interactive general public workshops on themes such as anxiety, relational intimacy, and healing from trauma, further establishing his commitment to sharing knowledge and resources for both clinicians and the general public.

Resources for Family Estrangement, Spiritual Harm, & the Ethics of AI in Therapy with Matthias Barker (255)

Estrangement.com – Sign up here for The Healing Estrangement

MatthiasJBarker.com – Matthias’ website, with resources and other information


And of course, our book is also a great resource – it’s for professionals and life-long learners of all kinds. If you’ve read it we’d love to hear from you and if you support it, PLEASE leave a review on either Amazon or Goodreads. Tk you!!

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Events, Announcements & Resource Links for Secure Relating & the Election

Psychotherapy Networker Symposium – March 20-23, 2025

Rethinking Attachment – Using the Attachment Spectrum in Clinical Practice

Learn More & Register Here

Integrative Attachment Therapy Course Information

Therapists: THIS is our recommended class for the most comprehensive training on attachment out there. It just so happens it is also Dennings recommended program as discussed in this. episode!   Use our link for a discount! 

Trauma Therapy Directory – Resources for Trauma, PTSD, and Complex PTSD – Created by our friends at the Trauma Therapy Network!

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Thanks for listening, friends, & for being on this journey with us! 

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