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Dec 2024
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114: Why You Shouldn't Settle In Love An...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
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Dené Logan joins Sabrina in a thought-provoking conversation about what settling is and what it can look like in relationships. They talk about how important it is to  understand ourselves as souls when choosing partners. Dené challenges the common belief that being uncoupled is the worst outcome, arguing instead that relationships should add to our lives and not be driven by societal conditioning.

Sabrina and Dené delve into the energies of masculinity and femininity, emphasizing that these are energies, not rigid identities, and that real connection comes from understanding and humanizing one another. Dené stresses that relationships need inspiration, respect, and a shared vision to thrive, and Sabrina adds that we shouldn't expect to change someone into our ideal partner.

They both highlight the need for a community-based approach to relationships, where the pressure to stay partnered is lessened, allowing for a healthier, more balanced connection. Through their insights, Dené and Sabrina encourage listeners to reflect on whether they are truly showing up in their relationships or merely outsourcing our power to make themselves more comfortable.

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