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Jan 2025
1h 18m

Why you should get a prenup and how to b...

Anna Kai
About this episode

We're joined this week with Vivian Tu as she doles out the advice we all need to hear on how to stop settling for less than what you deserve whether that's at work or in your love life.


Keywords: dating, society, culture, relationships, love lessons, dating advice, toxic relationships, overcoming failure, date yourself, being behind, love and money, prenups, marriage advice


Vivian's story shows us all how to stop letting other people write the narrative to your life and why you shouldn't avoid doing things just because they're hard. On this week's episode, we discuss harmful stereotypes and narratives about Asian women, why she left her first career on Wall Street and then her second career at BuzzFeed, and why she thinks everyone should get a prenup before getting married. We talk about that time she moved in with her boyfriend after one month of dating, whether she thinks money can actually make you happier, and why you can tell a lot about a person from the way they treat money.


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