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Dec 2024
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373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong -...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the thing: you’ve probably been taught that perfect consistency is the only way to make habits work—but that’s total BS. What if the real key is actually embracing inconsistency?

In this episode, I’m flipping the script on conventional habit advice. I’ll show you why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress and how letting go of the need to get it “perfect” can actually help you build habits that stick. Tune in to learn practical strategies for embracing imperfection, ditching all-or-nothing thinking, and making real, sustainable progress—no matter how messy it looks along the way.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/373

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