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Nov 2024
1h 45m

How to Discover What You TRULY Want—and ...

Dave Asprey
About this episode

What if you could command any room and set boundaries without saying a word? 

Dave Asprey sits down with Kasia Urbaniak, founder and CEO of The Academy—a trailblazing school where women learn the true principles of influence and authority. Kasia brings a unique and dynamic perspective, drawing on nearly two decades of experience that includes working as a professional Dominatrix, practicing Taoist alchemy in one of China’s oldest female-led monasteries, and earning certifications across disciplines like Medical Qi Gong and Systemic Constellations. 

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How to set clear, unbreakable boundaries in any situation 

• Techniques for wielding influence without sacrificing integrity 

• Tools to reclaim inner authority and navigate life with confidence 

• Practical strategies for handling power dynamics in relationships, work, and beyond 

Kasia’s methods have empowered over 4,000 women worldwide to step into leadership roles in every sphere, from personal relationships to professional arenas. In this episode, she shares practical insights on transforming how you’re perceived by others and, more importantly, how you perceive yourself. Whether you’re navigating complex workplace dynamics, strengthening personal boundaries, or seeking clarity in relationships, Kasia’s teachings offer a path to reclaiming the powerful, authentic authority within you. 


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Resources: 

2025 Biohacking Conferencehttps://biohackingconference.com/2025 

Kasia Urbaniak’s Websitehttps://www.kasiaurbaniak.com 

Kasia Urbaniak’s Book: Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Powerhttps://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/unbound 

The Academy – Practical Training for Women on Power and Influencehttps://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/the-academy 

Kasia Urbaniak on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/kasiaurbaniak/ 

Dave Asprey’s Websitehttps://daveasprey.com 

Dave Asprey’s Book: Smarter Not Harderhttps://daveasprey.com/books 

Danger Coffeehttps://dangercoffee.com 

Danger Coffee Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/dangercoffeeofficial/ 

Dave Asprey’s Linktreehttps://linktr.ee/daveasprey 

Upgrade Collective: Join The Human Upgrade Podcast Livehttps://www.ourupgradecollective.com 

Own an Upgrade Labshttps://ownanupgradelabs.com 

Upgrade Labshttps://upgradelabs.com 

40 Years of Zen – Neurofeedback training for advanced cognitive enhancementhttps://40yearsofzen.com 


Timestamps: 

00:00 Introduction to the Human Upgrade 

01:07 Meet Kasia Urbaniak: Author of Unbound 

02:52 Exploring Power Dynamics 

04:46 The Role of Emotions in Power 

14:50 Embodiment and Somatic Work 

32:58 The Power of Voice and Presence 

48:22 Collective Intelligence and Intuition 

54:50 Facing Fears and Intuition 

55:15 Male vs. Female Intuition 

56:01 The Power of Erotic Energy 

57:13 Welcoming Emotions and States 

59:10 Role-Playing and Personas 

01:00:06 Teaching Women to Speak Up 

01:02:04 Energetic Dynamics in Relationships 

01:04:35 Victimhood and Healing 

01:19:54 The Power of Asking 

01:29:40 Money and Emotional Alchemy 

01:31:53 Shameless Money Conversations 

01:44:00 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Events 

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