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Nov 2024
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Tiff & The Controlling Water Torturer | ...

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks to Tiff about her relationship with a dehumanizing abuser. Tiff met her ex at a 12-step meeting. He seemed like the protector type. But what Tiff didn't know was that the protection she'd need would be from him. Soon after her ex became comfortable in the relationship, the putdowns began, which turned into gaslighting, deflecting responsibility, and manipulative behavior in his attempts to have Tiff conform to his needs.

It's a story of criticism, put downs, double standards, control, power, conforming, jealousy, competition, dehumanization, demands, the waterer torturer, button pushing, deflecting responsibility, gaslighting, being a burden, misogyny, and empathy.

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