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Nov 2024
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Secure Relating & the Election: Fosterin...

SUE MARRIOTT LCSW, CGP & ANN KELLEY PHD
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The election tension can be divisive – but we don’t have to be

The political events in the United States have been a major contributor to our anxieties these past years, and with our significant presidential election looming over us this week – Ann and Sue are here to talk about the hard things. While the world feels unpredictable on the outside, one thing we can do is focus on the intricate relationship between our nervous systems and the emotional responses triggered by political events. They discuss how fear and anxiety are often manipulated through political rhetoric, leading to division and polarization, the importance of understanding how personal relationships amidst these tensions are emphasized, and the need for secure relating and accountability from leaders. There is power in recognizing the complexity of political opinions and the necessity of maintaining open dialogue to foster connection rather than division. Join us as we explore how to navigate differences, the importance of empathy and community, and the need for resilience during uncertain times.

“We are resilient beings and we will get through this.”

Time Stamps for Secure Relating & the Election

00:00 Understanding the Nervous System’s Role in Fear
03:00 The Impact of Political Rhetoric on Our Emotions
05:56 Navigating Personal Relationships Amidst Political Divisions
09:06 The Complexity of Political Opinions
11:57 The Importance of Secure Relating in Divided Times
14:52 Holding Leaders Accountable in a Polarized Environment
25:49 The Importance of Secure Relating
30:02 Navigating Division and Conflict
36:32 Finding Resilience in Uncertain Times
41:20 Empathy and Community in Crisis
46:36 Promoting Secure Relating for a Better Future

Resources for Secure Relating & the Election
A Started Guide for Surviving Election Season” – Important reminders from Oh Happy Dani, the Everyday Advocate
Vote.org – Nonpartisan tool for voting logistics and information
“8 Questions that can help you survive election stress”Helpful resource from UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Magazine
Somatic Techniques for Stress & Anxiety – Somatic practices from Brooklyn Somatic Therapy

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