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Oct 2024
52m 49s

Questions You Aren't Allowed to Ask

Esther Perel Global Media
About this episode

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin?, but might still be new to many of you. What began as an eight-year affair between two women has stretched into a 19-year partnership. But despite their private commitment to one another, they’ve never quite managed to move beyond the shame of their origin story. Esther takes a novel approach to revealing a long-held secret.


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