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Oct 2024
38m 37s

#83 - Sleeping Separate vs. Your Relatio...

DR. MATT WALKER
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Matt revisits the concept of "sleep divorce," or "sleep separation" in this latest episode, examining its effects on relationships and well-being. He cites studies showing that up to one in four couples in the U.S. and U.K. sleep in separate rooms, a statistic often underestimated due to stigma. While many fear that sleeping apart harms intimacy, Matt presents data indicating that it can actually enhance sleep quality and intimacy by promoting better-rested bodies and increasing hormones like testosterone and estrogen. 

He also discusses new research on the psychology of co-sleeping, revealing that despite poorer sleep quality, many couples feel more satisfied when sharing a bed, driven by a deep-rooted need for social connection, known as "somato longing." This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own sleep habits and offers advice on discussing sleep separation with partners, emphasizing that the choice to sleep together or apart should prioritize open communication and individual health.

Please note that Matt is not a medical doctor, and none of the content in this podcast should be considered medical advice in any way, shape, or form, nor prescriptive in any way.

Are sleep troubles keeping you up at night? Matt used to be a skeptic about meditation, but 7 years ago, he tried it using a fantastic meditation app called ‘Calm’, and it transformed his sleep! Now, he meditates for 10 minutes before bedtime every night! He’s also partnered with Calm who have been generous enough to offer his podcast listeners an exclusive 40% discount on their premium subscription! All you have to do is go to calm.com/mattwalker and take advantage of this incredible deal! Head on over now and improve your sleep today!

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As always, if you have thoughts or feedback you’d like to share, please reach out to Matt on Instagram.

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