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Sep 2024
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088: Inside the Mind of a Submissive: A...

Elle and Vee
About this episode

In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with Summer (FetLife:  DaddysPrettyToy ) about her journey through a BDSM Dom/Sub relationship. She shares her experiences as a trained submissive, highlighting the positive aspects of her BDSM journey and the transformative power of a healthy Dom/Sub dynamic. Listen in for a detailed play-by-play of her scenes, insights into her daily tasks, and the reasons and methods behind her punishments.

How Fifty Shades of Grey and Playful Wrestling with Her Boyfriend Inspired Summer to Explore BDSM: She discusses how she found her first Dom and what motivated her to get into this lifestyle. (1:04)


Her First Dom/Sub Relationship: The Agreement and Lessons Beyond. (8:40)
 

A Day in the Life of a D/s Relationship: Sessions and Communication: Details of a typical day in her Dom/Sub relationship, including the dynamics of their sessions and the importance of clear communication. (11:43)


A Day in the Life of a Trained Sub: 8-10 Hour Sessions and Rules (13:12)
 

A Sexy Wax Play Scene: Building Trust, Aftercare, and Debriefing: Summer describes a wax play scene, the questions that were asked to build trust, why the scene was suddenly stopped, and the aftercare and debriefing discussion. (15:52)


Characteristics of a Good Dom and How It Can Be a Gift to a Sub. (19:09)


The Misuse of the Term 'Dom'. (20:17)


Shibari Rope Scene Play by Play: Summer compares the differences between her two Doms, the sexual skills she learned, and details a scene involving being frog-tied with shibari rope and using a TENS unit. (22:49)


Being a Good Dom Means being a Good Sub: Summer explains where her two dominants learned their skills. Exploring how BDSM practices push personal limits and how these experiences can translate into real-world scenarios. (31:00)

 

Punishments as a Sub: What Happens When You’re a Brat; A look at the various types of punishments a submissive might encounter, whether they enjoy them or not, and what happened when Summer was a "brat." (35:53)


People-Pleasing, Struggling to Say No, and Asking for Permission to See Other Men (40:21)

Ending a Sub/Dom Relationship for a Vanilla Relationship (44:20)
 

Finding the Right Dom for You: A play-by-play of how Summer met her Dom on FetLife, along with tips and questions you can use to find the right Dom for yourself. (46:20)

 Insights into how her Dom helped with her personal wellness and growth. (49:15)


Reflecting on whether it's possible for Summer to pursue a monogamous relationship after such deep and intimate Dom/Sub experiences. (51:00)

Be intentional with your desires and sexual awakening. Tips to Be Safe when exploring BDSM. (54:00)


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