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Sep 2024
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Why Couples are “Living Apart Together” ...

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About this episode

If you’re into the prospect of sleeping or living apart from a partner (or just curious about couples who do this), this episode with writer and professor Kelly Coyne will give you everything you need to know! We talk about couples who live in the same home but have separate bedrooms, how this affects your sex life (and what sex experts think about it), and which gender benefits more from sleeping separately. We then discuss couples who have chosen to live apart long-term, and spouses who lived together then decided to live apart and how it impacted the relationship. Kelley shares stats and the current landscape of “living apart together” and we also discuss why more women are questioning marriage and whether it actually benefits them. Before Kelly joins us, we have updates on Ashley’s engagement ring and Rayna’s flirty contractor next door, and we debate the topic: Should couples be in the bathroom at the same time? Enjoy!

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