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Sep 2024
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996: Tackling Work Stressors and Transit...

How to be Awesome at Your Job
About this episode

Tessa West shares her method for making the necessary changes that lead to greater job satisfaction. 


— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How your body tells you when it’s time to change jobs 

2) How to not be overwhelmed by the stresses at work 

3) The hidden curriculum that helps you succeed at work 


Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep996 for clickable versions of the links below. 


— ABOUT TESSA — 

Tessa West is a Professor of Psychology at New York University and a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Her work focuses on questions such as, why is it so hard to give honest, critical feedback? and how do class, race, and cultural differences make communication in the workplace so difficult, and what can we do to improve it?

Tessa's work has been covered by Scientific American, the New York Times, ABC World News, TIME, Harper’s Bazaar, the Financial Times, Forbes, CNBC, CNN, The Guardian, The Globe and Mail, Bloomberg, Strategy and Business, and the US Supreme Court. She has appeared on the Nightly Show with Larry Wilmore, CNN, and Good Morning America, and is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal. She is the author of the book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What To Do About Them and the upcoming Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works For You. 

• Book: Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works for You 

• Book: Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them 

• Website: TessaWestAuthor.com 

• Research website: TessaWestLab.com 


— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Article: "Intimate Partner Violence: A Literature Review" by Erick Yonfa, Malinda Fasol, Camila Cueva, Anna Zavgorodniava 

• Past episode: 745: How to Handle Bad Bosses and Toxic Coworkers with Tessa West 

• Study: Brittle Smiles: Positive Biases Toward Stigmatized and Outgroup Targets 

• Tool: Bose noise-cancelling headphones

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