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Sep 2024
27m 33s

Why You are Experiencing Dating Burnout ...

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About this episode

Are you feeling burnt out from dating lately?

Do you feel like you're repeating the same mistakes in dating?

Today, Jay talks about why dating burnout is a common and natural response to repeated disappointments, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating apps. He notes that most respondents feel disconnected, disillusioned, and emotionally drained, which leads to frustration and reluctance to continue dating.

It is important to accept and acknowledge feelings of burnout. Jay explains that a vital first step in overcoming this is to reframe expectations and approach dating with a healthier mindset. Dating is like applying for a job, where the process may involve multiple attempts and disappointments, but persistence is key. To avoid personalizing every rejection, focus on their self-worth, be kinder to themselves, and build resilience throughout the dating journey.

Jay highlights the importance of identifying and aligning with core values, explaining that these are the foundation for long-term relationship success. 

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Overcome Dating Burnout

How to Spot Red Flags Early

How to Build Resilience in Dating

How to Align with Your Core Values

How to Reframe Rejection Positively

By approaching dating with less pressure, identifying red flags early, and giving second chances, you can create healthier, more meaningful connections while avoiding emotional exhaustion.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:44 Are You Dealing with Dating Burnout?

05:43 Approach Dating with Higher Resilience

08:10 Four Red Flags of Poor Communication

11:39 Attraction is Beyond What You See

13:08 The Pressure to Present Yourself in a Certain Way

18:04 Focus on Having One Conversation at a Time

22:39 Why Do We Get Bored When Dating?

23:54 3 Strategies to Successful Dating

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