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Sep 2024
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222: Emotional vs. Problem-Solving Commu...

SHANE BIRKEL
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In this solo episode, Shane breaks down emotional vs. problem-solving communication. Hear why this misunderstanding happens a lot with couples, how to discuss difficult emotions, how to get partners on the same page, how long it takes to recover from an affair, and the times when it's important to problem-solve.

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