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Sep 2024
51m 33s

Gillian Anderson: Sexual fantasies, orga...

Fearne Cotton
About this episode

What is your deepest sexual desire? Where do you think it comes from? Gillian Anderson has collected a series of anonymous fantasies in her new book, Want, and she wonders that at the heart of so many fantasies is the longing to be seen for who we really are.

 

In this chat Fearne and Gillian explore why a lack of self-esteem might be affecting women’s experience of sex, and what a deeply personal fantasy might say about gender relations in wider society.

 

Gillian offers advice about how to ‘act as if...’, that is, fake it ‘til you make it if you’re lacking confidence in the bedroom. She talks about how stepping into sexy, strong characters on screen has allowed her to embrace that power in her real life.

 

Plus, learn how to think of fantasy as a creative and empowering act, one that allows you to literally write your own life story.

 

Gillian’s book, Want, is our Happy Place Book Club pick for September, and it’s out now.


Thank you to Bloomsbury Publishing for the use of Want audiobook, read by Gillian Anderson and Anonymous.



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