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Sep 2024
48m 30s

49: From Performance to Pleasure - Tantr...

Anne Bland
About this episode

In this episode, Anne Bland tackles premature ejaculation (PE) from a fresh and compassionate perspective. Rather than focusing on the problem, she explores how Tantra offers a path to deeper connection, sexual mastery, and prolonged pleasure. Learn how to harmonize your sexual energy, dismantle common myths about PE, and move from performance anxiety to authentic, empowered intimacy.


Key Topics Covered:

- Reframing Premature Ejaculation: Anne introduces a new term, "Harmonised Pleasure," to shift the focus from performance to pleasure, aligning with the principles of Tantra.

- Causes of PE: A deep dive into the psychological and biological factors that can lead to PE, including anxiety, stress, hormonal imbalances, and physical illness.

- Tantric Techniques for Sexual Mastery: Discover practical tools like breathwork, mindful touch, and the stop-start method to help manage sexual energy and prolong pleasure.

- 7 Holistic Sex Tools: Insights from Anne's eBook, Pleasure Is Your Birthright, that you can use to enhance your sexual experiences, including intention, breath, and energy awareness.

- Tantric Affirmations for Confidence such as: "In this moment, I honour my body, my energy, and my pleasure. I am whole, I am empowered, and I am in harmony with myself and my partner."

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