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Aug 2024
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207. Summer Lovin’ Series: Week Nine, Se...

Francie Winslow
About this episode

Welcome to the Summer Lovin’ Series, where we are taking some of the most beloved episodes and bringing you a mix of equipping you with a mix of mindset, mentoring and practicals to help you see the goodness of God in your bedroom and your body.

What’s okay for Christian marriage in the bedroom? 

Maybe that’s the wrong question. Married sex can be a playground, filled with creativity and adventure. In this episode, we’ll reframe the question and perhaps help you process and give yourself permission for a little bit of adventure and freedom in your marriage bed. God created you in a wonderful way and designed married intimacy as celebration.

The bodies of a husband and wife are designed to fit together perfectly and there isn’t a mandate saying you need to add anything. Sex toys are simply tools that you can introduce to your married intimacy “menu.” Consider these thoughts on sex toys as you process what is good for your marriage.

Keep learning with Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here:  The Circle

 

101 Course: Strong Foundations to Starting Well

CLAIMING A HEALTHY VISION FOR MARRIED SEX

 

To build a love that lasts, you must begin with a strong foundation. Whether you’re newly engaged or in need of a new lens, this course is essential. You’ll be equipped to set a Biblically integrated and practically grounded vision for sex, marriage and the calling to steward the gift of pleasure and intimacy. This course is pivotal as you begin to unlearn unhelpful perspectives and sift through shame, lies and painful messages you’ve received over the years. Learn more here.

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