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Aug 2024
38m 3s

Book Club Meets: Orgies, PTSD, and bodie...

Fearne Cotton
About this episode

Are you having the sex you want? Comedian and author Sofie Hagen reckons there are loads of things standing in the way of pleasure – everything from gender identity and body image, to parenting and the cost of living crisis.

 

In this Book Club episode – recorded live at the Happy Place Festival – Sofie tells Fearne why they haven’t had sex for 3000 days and counting... and why they’ve written about it in ‘Will I Ever Have Sex Again?’

 

What does sex mean to you? Sofie wonders if it’s about ‘enjoying bodies’, but how can you relax into desire if you have self-loathing around your body, or don’t trust that others will enjoy your body?

 

Plus, do you think labels around gender and sexuality are restrictive or liberating? Fearne and Sofie chat about their thoughts, and Sofie also explains why your PTSD, anxiety, or OCD is trying to protect you.

 

Will I Ever Have Sex Again is the Happy Place Book Club read for July, and is out now.


Thank you to Bonnier for the use of the Will I Ever Sex Again audiobook, read by Sofie Hagen.

 

Listen to Book Club Meets: Fearne Cotton

 

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