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The Minimalists speak with Carl Lentz about the deep breach of trust that accompanies cheating in a romantic relationship.

Discussed in this episode:

How did Carl Lentz’s life come crashing down at the height of his fame? (2:47)

How did “lifestyle clutter” contribute to Lentz’s infidelity? (4:18)

What unexpected areas of your life were affected by your extramarital affair? (7:19)

What steps are required to make amends after you’ve hurt someone you love? (16:39)

How do I avoid blaming others for the mistakes I’ve made? (24:47)

What role did apologizing and forgiveness play in your healing? (27:47)

What self-defeating stories lead to adultery? (39:45)

What are the commonalities between most cases of unfaithfulness? (42:15)

What’s your definition of infidelity? (54:15)

Listener tip: Just say no to free things! (1:02:23)

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Detailed show notes: theminimalists.com/podcast

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