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Jul 2024
59m 18s

Emotional Intelligence with Former Spy |...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we explore the complex intersections of military service, intelligence work, and mental health with Dave Fielding, a decorated US Army Green Beret turned intelligence officer and mental health advocate. David's distinguished career includes service in high-stakes operations such as Operation Inherent Resolve and Operation Enduring Freedom, earning him a Bronze Star. As the author of Into the Darkness: A Journey of Love, War, and Emotional Freedom, David brings a unique perspective on emotional intelligence, the struggles of returning to civilian life, and the silent battles faced by veterans. 


Join us for an enlightening conversation with Dave Fielding, where he unveils powerful strategies for navigating the challenges of military life and transitioning to civilian life. How can emotional intelligence transform your relationships and leadership skills? What are the secrets to building rapid rapport across diverse cultures? David shares his personal battle with suicidal thoughts and how he overcame them, offering invaluable insights for those struggling with similar issues. Discover the significance of understanding motivations and learn practical advice that can help you foster stronger connections. Don't miss this episode, filled with heartfelt stories and actionable tips.


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • How does David Fielding's unique background shape his perspective on emotional intelligence and mental health?
  • What pivotal moments in David's career as a Green Beret and intelligence officer define his journey?


  • The Green Beret Secret to Building Rapid Rapport – 12:40
  • How can understanding motivations help you build instant connections with others?
  • What techniques does David use to create deep connections across diverse cultures?


  • How to Overcome Your Darkest Struggles – 17:40
  • Why did Dave go from Special Forces to mental health advocacy and what was that shift like?
  • What strategies did David employ to overcome his suicidal thoughts?
  • How can others facing similar struggles find their way out of the darkness?


  • How to Reframe Challenges into Life Changing Opportunities – 33:13
  • How can reframing your perspective help you tackle seemingly insurmountable challenges?
  • What practical steps can you take to reframe and find meaning in difficult situations?


  • The Power of Understanding Motivations – 43:16
  • How can understanding the motivations of others improve your leadership and relationships?
  • David discusses the significance of asking “why” in conversations.

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