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Jul 2024
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#146: How to Reconcile Conflicting Relat...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Have you ever found yourself seeking out relationship advice online only to be bombarded with pages of seemingly conflicting and contradictory opinions? If so, you're not alone - and today's episode is for you. I'm going to be sharing 5 examples of contradictory relationship advice that you may have encountered and struggled to make sense of, so that you can understand the nuances and practise discernment in finding the right way forward for you.

We cover:

  • going after a life you love AND learning to be content with what you have
  • knowing what you want in a partner AND not being overly prescriptive
  • not dating someone for their potential AND wanting someone you can grow with
  • not changing yourself to earn someone's love AND wanting to be your best self to attract a healthy partner
  • the importance of feeling your feelings AND knowing when it's okay to distract yourself 

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