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Jun 2024
46m 24s

It's Good To Be Aroused (with Sam Jolman...

Drew Boa
About this episode

"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine sexuality for the purpose of awe, play, and worshipping God. You'll learn how arousal always has a script, why evil hates arousal, and the difference between sexuality and sensuality. At the end, you'll receive a beautiful blessing from Sam. This episode is amazing!

Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Fun fact: Sam and Drew attend the same church!

Buy Sam's new book (paid link):
The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

Join Sam's newsletter for a free copy of the first chapter: samjolman.substack.com

Learn more and connect with Sam at samjolman.com


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