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Jun 2024
33m 29s

#404 - Overcoming the Fear of Being 'Sin...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot. 

And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully. 

On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what. 

Tune in to learn: 

  • 03:11 Understanding the Fear
  • 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships
  • 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships
  • 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing
  • 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear
  • 13:31 Overcoming the Fear
  • 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single
  • 15:02 Shifting Mindset
  • 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development
  • 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes
  • 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs
  • 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections
  • 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life
  • 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life
  • 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive
All of that and more on this episode for you. I hope you'll join me!
 
xoxo, 
 
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
 
P.S. — Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start dating with intention? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 
 
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