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May 2024
1h 33m

How Romantic Socialization Has F*cked Us...

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About this episode

It’s not you…it’s the brain gap. In this eye-opening episode with author/life coach/podcaster Kara Loewentheil, we’re unpacking what the brain gap actually is and how it f*cks you up when it comes to your love life, body image, and more. Kara educates us on the four traps of romantic socialization and why we feel crazy about dating even when we know we shouldn’t, how women police themselves with their looks/body/aging and how to stop, why traditional “positive thinking” doesn’t work and how to realistically bridge the brain gap, and why feminists struggle with engagement culture. Before Kara joins us, we’re recapping our NYC trip, Rayna being extra horny, Ashley’s Instagram awakening, the difference between “Daddys” and “Fathers”, and poop-gate 2024. Enjoy! 

Follow Kara on Instagram @karaloewentheil, read her book Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out, check out her website, and listen to her podcast UnF*ck Your Brain. 

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