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May 2024
45m 17s

Where is my Fantasy Child?

Dr. Shefali / Maia Wisdom
About this episode
Many of us parents create fantasies around who our children will be and how we will parent them. When these fantasies don’t come true, we feel anxious and frustrated and often blame our children for this. In this episode, Dr. Shefali helps two parents understand that the root of the problem is not their children but instead their unrealistic expectations.   ... Show More
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