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May 2024
32m 27s

#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship?

This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood. 

It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship. 

On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love.

Tune in to learn about: 

  • 01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships
  • 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems
  • 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money
  • 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money
  • 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice
  • 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor
  • 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling
  • 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money
  • 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money
  • 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances
  • 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively

And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation

 

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