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May 2024
55m 23s

Ep 78 Natalie Russell | Attachment Style...

The Self Development Coach
About this episode

Summary


In this episode, Johnny Lawrence speaks to Natalie Russell, a relationship recovery coach and star of the TV show My Mum, Your Dad. They discuss Natalie's journey, including her time on the show and her breakup with Paul. Natalie shares her insights on knowing when a relationship is over and the lessons she learned from being in the public eye. They also delve into attachment theory and how it affects relationship patterns. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness and growth in building healthy relationships. In this conversation, Natalie Russell discusses the impact of attachment styles on relationships and emphasises the importance of the relationship with oneself. She highlights the need for self-care and the signs of a poor relationship with oneself. Natalie also shares her journey of accepting and embracing flaws and dealing with difficult emotions such as rage and grief. She reflects on the lessons learned from challenging relationships and the power of expressing emotions through bodywork. Natalie emphasises the role of perception and taking responsibility in relationships and the importance of finding a supportive tribe. She concludes by discussing the difference between being single and being alone.


Takeaways


  • Knowing when to walk away from a relationship that isn't right for you is a sign of growth and self-awareness.
  • Being in the public eye can be challenging, but it can also provide opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery.
  • Attachment styles, such as secure, anxious, and avoidant, play a significant role in how we navigate relationships.
  • Building secure attachments and healthy relationships requires self-work, communication, and a willingness to learn and grow. The relationship with oneself is crucial for healthy relationships with others.
  • Self-care and prioritising one's well-being are essential for a healthy relationship with oneself.
  • Accepting and embracing flaws is a key aspect of personal growth and healing.
  • Dealing with difficult emotions, such as rage and grief, requires self-compassion and acceptance.
  • Finding a supportive tribe and surrounding oneself with like-minded individuals is important for personal development and growth.


Chapters


00:00 Introduction and Apology

00:30 Grounding and Zen

01:16 Natalie's Professional Setup

04:11 Natalie's Colorful Journey

05:11 The TV Show and Breakup with Paul

08:05 Knowing When a Relationship is Over

10:20 Lessons from Being on a TV Show

11:15 The Journey After the Show

13:55 The Silence After the Show

20:37 Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns

25:17 The Rarity of Secure Attachment

27:48 Navigating Differences in Relationships

28:18 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships

30:37 The Relationship with Oneself

31:24 The Importance of Self-Care

32:23 Signs of a Poor Relationship with Oneself

33:24 Accepting and Embracing Flaws

36:05 Dealing with Difficult Emotions

38:25 Lessons Learned from Challenging Relationships

41:30 Understanding and Managing Rage and Grief

45:03 Expressing Emotions through Body Work

46:28 Perception and Taking Responsibility

49:51 The Power of Finding Your Tribe

52:23 Being Single vs. Being Alone

53:51 Where to Find Natalie Russell


FIND NATALIE RUSSELL

Instagram @iamnatalierussell

Website https://www.natalierussell.uk/ 


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