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Apr 2024
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#203: Coping with Getting Ghosted and Fa...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

It’s been almost 3 years since Mary has talked to my father. Now she’s processing that familial estrangement in real time with the help of Minaa B, a licensed social worker and proponent for psychological safety. The conversation also leads into the phenomenon of ghosting; why people do it and how to cope with the lack of closure.

You will learn...

  • what constitutes estranged family and how surprisingly common it is
  • why people GHOST and how to cope with ghosting in relationships
  • the important difference between rules vs. boundaries
  • ways to grieve and find closure for abrupt endings

Remember: closure is akin to forgiveness in that it can only come from within.

Minaa B. is a licensed social worker, mental health educator, and author of Owning Our Struggles. She is also the founder of a mental health consulting practice where she collaborates with organizations to help them develop psychological safety. Additionally, Minaa is the host of the Verywell Mind podcast, runs an advice column for Cosmopolitan magazine called Free Therapy, and is also a member of the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez.  An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in various media outlets, including Red Table Talk, Peace of Mind with Taraji, Oprah Daily, Katie Couric Media, and more. Minaa currently resides in New York City.

Follow Minaa on Instagram: @minaa_b
Get Minaa’s new book Owning Our Struggles: https://amzn.to/4b1GDOU

And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @minaa_b

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