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Apr 2024
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#366: Why You Don’t Want to Peak in Your...

MARK GROVES
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In this episode, I welcome Meg Jay – a developmental clinical psychologist specializing in twentysomethings – who helps tackle the question: are your 20s the best years of your life? Together, we explore the complexities of navigating our 20s and the misconceptions about this period. Meg sheds light on societal pressures, mental health hurdles, and the crucial need for tailored support for individuals in their 20s. She also discusses the power of empathy over stigmas, touches on generational shifts in work culture, and addresses the common obstacles faced by twentysomethings. Whether you're currently in this age group or not, this conversation offers invaluable insights into the support we all require during this pivotal decade of life. Meg Jay, PhD, is the author of The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age, Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero and the cult classic The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok. Her TED talk “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” is among the most watched to date. Dr. Jay earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from the University of California, Berkeley. She is on faculty at the University of Virginia and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville.  —Meg’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay/ —Meg’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-jay-phd/ —Meg’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drmegjay  —Meg’s X/Twitter: https://twitter.com/drmegjay —Meg’s Threads: https://www.threads.net/@drmegjay —Meg’s Book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Twentysomething-Treatment/Meg-Jay/9781668012291 If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Relationships, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Transformation, Career, Mental Health, Purpose, Empathy, Personal Growth, Twenties This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —FACTOR: Use code MARKGROVES50 to save 50% at http://factormeals.com/markgroves50  Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!

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