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Mar 2024
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8 Ways to Decide Which Friendships to In...

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About this episode

Do you feel tired of small talk and no real connection?

Do you want to start building genuine friendships?

Today, Jay talks about the eight simple tips to help you decide which friends to keep close and which ones you might need to step back from. You'll learn how to spot friends who make you happy and help you grow, and notice the ones who might be bringing you down.

Let's understand the impact of the company you keep, the power of focusing on yourself, and the wisdom in discerning relationships meant for a season, reason, or lifetime. Jay unpacks the value of tough conversations and learns to distinguish between fleeting friendships and those destined for depth. There is strength in setting boundaries and the transformative experience of shared challenges. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to choose your long-term friends

How to deepen new friendships

How to be the right friends to others

This episode is your guide to nurturing genuine connections and fostering personal growth in a world craving authenticity.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:00 Who Do You Spend Time With?

04:05 Focus on Yourself

05:06 Season, Reason, or a Lifetime

10:29 Is Repairing a Broken Relationship Worth It?

13:24 Why Do We Need These Hard Conversations?

15:58 Not Every Friendship Has a Future

18:32 Shallow Conversations Don’t Lead to Genuine Connection

21:26 Barriers Keep Others Out, Boundaries Keep Us Safe

23:08 If You Don’t Fit In, That’s Okay

25:04 Doing Difficult Things Together 

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