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Feb 2024
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Ep 25: Safe Space Talks to Tiff Der abou...

Emma and Hester
About this episode

TW: Domestic Violence

In this episode, we chatted with Queer icon Tiff Der, best known for their appearance on the Netflix show, The Ultimatum: Queer Love.

A reality TV show that puts couples to the test when presented with a marriage ultimatum. We delved into their experience on the show and their relationship with Mildred. We touch upon topics of domestic violence.

We also explore queer self-compassion, gender expression, and how to deal with people who don't get it.


We hope you enjoy! ❤️





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