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Feb 2024
27m 42s

Give Up To Get Confidence And Freedom No...

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
About this episode

Hey there, and welcome to a transformative journey in today's episode of the show, "Give to Get Confidence and Freedom Now." I'm Dr. Aziz, and I'm about to challenge some of your deepest-held beliefs about goals, dreams, and how we chase after what we want in life. If you've ever felt like pushing and striving only leads you further away from true confidence and freedom, then this episode is for you.

In our time together, I'll explore the somewhat radical idea of giving up on your goals and dreams. But wait, it's not what you think. I'm not advocating for a life of passivity or lack of ambition. Rather, I'm going to show you how 'giving up' in a specific way can actually unlock new levels of freedom and authenticity in your life.

We'll dive into the concept of how striving for certain goals, especially around becoming more confident or socially free, often becomes the very barrier that prevents us from achieving them. I'll share insights from my own life and my work with clients, illustrating how a different approach can lead to profound liberation and happiness.

What does it mean to truly 'give up' on your goals? It's about letting go of the intense grip of needing specific outcomes to feel okay. It's about understanding that many aspects of life, like confidence and inner peace, are more of a byproduct of how we live rather than objectives we can directly achieve.

As we navigate this topic, I'll offer practical advice on how to let go of the need to control every aspect of your life, including the future, and how to embrace a state of being where you are more in tune with the flow of life. It's about shifting from a mindset of 'needing' to a mindset of 'allowing' and 'being.'

Your next action step after this episode? Identify one thing, big or small, that you feel you need to be okay with. Reflect on it, breathe into it, and explore the space of 'I don't know, and it's okay.' It's time to learn how to take action without attachment, to live without the constant pressure of having to control every outcome.

Join me as I guide you through this liberating process and help you find a path to greater confidence and freedom. Remember, sometimes the greatest strength lies not in holding on, but in letting go. So tune in, let's challenge some paradigms, and start your journey toward a more authentic, confident you. Until we speak again, remember: dare to be who you are and know, on a deep level, that you're awesome.

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