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Jan 2024
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Dan Savage On: How to Handle Disappointm...

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Dan Savage has been writing the popular sex-advice column Savage Love for over thirty years. He also hosts the Savage Lovecast and is the author of numerous books. In 2010 Dan and his husband founded the It Gets Better Project, which was designed to give hope to LGBTQ kids. It was seen all over the world–and won an Emmy. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • How to handle disappointment and jealousy
  • How to get better at sex
  • Why so many couples lose their spark and what to do about it
  • How to date in the era of apps
  • Why it’s so hard for straight couples to talk about sex
  • Dan’s contention that the idea of a ‘couple’ is an illusion

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