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Feb 2024
1h 21m

Why Loneliness is Worse Than Cigarettes ...

Violet Benson
About this episode

Hey Besties! Today, we welcome author, psychologist, and speaker Dr. Guy Winch. Guy specializes in the field of emotional health and well-being. He has gained recognition for his work in advocating for the importance of addressing emotional pain and mental health. He has given popular TED Talks on subjects such as "Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid" and has authored books, including "Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts."

Discover how to handle rejection without becoming your own worst critic and get inspired by Guy's own journey through fourteen years of rejection. From trust issues to self-criticism, we got your back with some real talk on navigating those tough moments. Learn the art of nurturing a supportive inner voice, practicing healthy self-reflection, and building emotional resilience. Plus, explore the fascinating world of emotional hygiene and the tools you need for a more resilient emotional well-being.

Dr. Winch's Recovering from Rejection and Failure program, made in collaboration with Mindbloom, is available now! Make sure to check it and start turning setbacks into wins.

If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!


What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:52 What are the most common emotions we experience when going through rejection?  
  • 02:58 Why do we stop trusting ourselves after a rejection?
  • 04:33 Don’t become self critical when you experience rejection
  • 06:11 How do you personally handle rejection and failure?
  • 07:40 Getting through fourteen years of rejection
  • 09:12 Having enough encouragement to keep you going
  • 10:49 How do you nurture a more supportive inner voice?
  • 15:42 What is healthy self-reflection?
  • 18:17 It’s about falling down, it’s about getting back up
  • 21:17 What is emotional hygiene?
  • 24:46 What happens when you don’t practice emotional hygiene?
  • 26:44 The tools you need to build emotional resilience
  • 28:56 Is self-compassion a game changer when it comes to dealing with failure?
  • 31:22 How do emotional wounds show up physically?
  • 34:37 Why do people get stuck in loneliness?
  • 39:28 Mindbloom: ketamine therapy for anxiety and depression
  • 45:05 Common misconceptions of psychedelics
  • 47:37 What are people most curious about psychedelics?
  • 49:16 Change your approach to emotional well-being
  • 50:00 The duration of ketamine treatment
  • 51:10 Is ketamine treatment right for you?
  • 53:26 What we don’t understand about heartbreaks
  • 56:17 Heartbreak is a grief process
  • 01:00:00 If you’re not feeling great, it’s not the best time to go online
  • 01:04:14 Real connection requires slight emotional vulnerability
  • 01:05:57 How can you make yourself happier?
  • 01:09:34 The difference between being alone and chronic loneliness
  • 01:11:12 Our emotional health requires effort
  • 01:15:08 Check-in with yourself periodically


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