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Jan 2024
54m 56s

Paul Brunson: Attachment theory, dating ...

Fearne Cotton
About this episode

Are we making ourselves unhappy by setting unrealistic expectations for our relationships? Matchmaker Paul C Brunson thinks we might just be.

 

In this chat, Fearne and Paul explore attachment theory, communication styles, and the idea that instead of looking for ‘the one’ we should prioritise doing more of the things that light us up. Plus, Paul explains why the biggest rule of dating is to find the person you want to break the rules with...

 

Paul’s book, Find Love, is published by Happy Place Books on February 1st.

 


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