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May 2023
46m 58s

Why You Keep Dating the Same Type of Per...

Kornelija Collins
About this episode

#52 In this episode, we are joined by licensed therapist and content creator, Jeff Guenther. Jeff covers a wide range of topics related to relationships, therapy, and mental health. He shares his experience working with individuals facing anxiety and suicidal thoughts before opening his own private practice in Portland, Oregon. Jeff also talks about being a content creator where he offers relationship advice, tips, and mental health resources on TikTok and Instagram. 


Jeff shares insights on relationships, therapy, cheating, friendships, communication, and more. Jeff covers various topics, including how our childhood experiences shape adult relationships, keeping romance alive, and dealing with narcissism and cheating. Tune in for a thought-provoking episode that offers valuable tips and advice for optimizing mental health and healthy relationships. 


Episode highlights:

- Jeff’s background 

- CBT therapy 

- Criteria for finding the therapist who’s right for you

- FAQs in discussing dating in therapy 

- Learning about love and intimacy from a young age 

- Outgrowing friendships

- Adult friendships 

- Why are men so into video games? 

- Feeling like your needs are not being met

- Sex role issues in long term relationships 

- Keeping romance in a relationship alive 

- Feeling like your relationship is becoming boring 

- Accepting imperfections in a relationship 

- Why people cheat 

- Narcissism in relationships  


Timestamps:

0:00- 7:45 | Jeff’s background 

0:00- 7:45 | Criteria for finding the therapist who’s right for you

7:45- 13:20 | The psychology in dating 

13:20- 28:00  | Friendships 

28:00- 41:00 | Solving problems in long term relationships 

41:00- 45:15 | Communication in a relationship 

45:15- 51:50 | Why people cheat 

51:50- 55:37 |  About Jeff’s job


CONNECT WITH JEFF:

https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff?_t=8cU5slhY8Lr&_r=1 

https://instagram.com/therapyjeff?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== 

https://www.therapyjeff.com/ 

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCPvzconEIUrYJlYC37Bd8OQ?sub_confirmation=1%3Fsub_confirmation%3D1#bottom-sheet 


CONNECT WITH KOKO:

https://www.instagram.com/kokobeaute/

https://www.tiktok.com/@kokobeaute

https://www.instagram.com/boujeebestfriend

https://www.boujeebestie.com


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