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Jan 2024
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Stop Trying to Be a "Good" Woman feat. A...

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We are kicking off the year with a very enlightening conversation with Elise Loehnen, author of the New York Times bestseller On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. We discuss these seven "sins" and the (wrong) notion we've been fed that a "good woman" is not supposed to indulge them, and why it's so much easier to damage a woman's reputation than a man's.  We chat about embracing pride, using your envy to figure out what you want in life, owning your lustfulness, and why anger is a positive emotion. We also talk about the nonstop policing and judging of women's bodies, why we punish ourselves for being "gluttonous,"  and how we can learn to accept our bodies. There is so much ground covered, but above all –  the importance of women supporting each other in the name of world domination.

Before Elise joins us, we're doing a quick Christmas/appetizer contest recap, sharing our goals for 2024, as well as some  from our audience, and announcing the official slogan for the year. Enjoy!

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